{"id":9070,"date":"2020-10-13T07:00:20","date_gmt":"2020-10-13T06:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.cvm.org.uk\/blog\/?p=9070"},"modified":"2020-09-29T18:55:13","modified_gmt":"2020-09-29T17:55:13","slug":"god-makes-no-mistakes-born-this-way-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cvm.org.uk\/blog\/friends-of-cvm\/god-makes-no-mistakes-born-this-way-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"God Makes No Mistakes  \u2013 Born This Way. Part 1."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>First of all I would like to thank Lady Gaga for the title of this blog. As a result you may be reading this with a deal of trepidation as to what might be coming next. Some of you might already know what I am about to reveal about myself, either because I told you or you have worked it out. Also for those of you who have read my previous blogs any preconceived idea of me might be about to be turned on its head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m&nbsp;Autistic&nbsp;\u2013&nbsp;there it is, out in the open. To be precise I have what is more commonly known as&nbsp;Asperger\u2019s Syndrome,&nbsp;sometimes referred to as being&nbsp;an \u2018Aspie\u2019.&nbsp;So first let me start with some personal myth busting:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>I am not like Rainman\u00a0\u2013\u00a0He was an Autistic Savant.<\/li><li>I did not \u2018catch\u2019 Autism, it is something you are born with.<\/li><li>I am not mentally defective or intellectually sub-normal\u00a0\u2013\u00a0far from it!<\/li><li>Autism is not demonic possession; it is just a different view of the world. Read &#8216;The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time&#8217;.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes, I have been confronted by these unhelpful labels throughout my life, and as I was only diagnosed when I was 47 (ie \u2018late diagnosis\u2019) not only had I had to deal with these prejudices but I had also learned to copy other \u2018normal\u2019 people\u2019s (Neuro Typical \u2013 aka NT) behaviour in order to blend in with the rest of the world. For me personally Autism is ability not dis-ability.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though the condition is so incredibly diverse we as Aspies experience the world in a completely different way in comparison with NT\u2019s; sounds appear louder, colours brighter, textures, tastes and smells more intense \u2013 growing up, for me, night-clubs were a night-mare. Sometimes the best way of describing it is like having the volume and contrast of your TV turned up to maximum and having the stereo going full blast for good measure! This sounds very negative so far, but it isn\u2019t.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I could so easily be bound to and by this, but it is my choice not to and I have to consciously major on the positives of my condition, because that is what God calls me to do. This is despite how emotionally and physically draining it might be to do so \u2013 and there are times when I buckle under the weight.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Philippians 4:8 says this\u00a0<em>&#8220;Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable\u2014if anything is excellent or praiseworthy\u2014think about such things&#8221;.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What for me then are the positives of being a Christian Aspie? Although for some\/many NT\u2019s these may be viewed as \u2018negatives\u2019.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>Excellent memory<\/strong> \u2013 I am also quite useful to have in your team in quizzes!\u00a0<\/li><li><strong>Insight<\/strong> \u2013 From time to time God uses me to bring new insights into His word that many people may not notice.\u00a0<\/li><li><strong>Hyper Focussing<\/strong> \u2013 If I get something in my head I can find myself digging into scripture (or whatever) to get to the fullest meaning of a text. I rarely let go until I feel that all avenues are explored to my satisfaction.\u00a0<\/li><li><strong>Original thinker<\/strong> \u2013 Not uncommon to think of \/ consider completely new ways of doing things, which for an Aspie is quite something as it is generally accepted that we are uncomfortable with change and like routine.\u00a0<\/li><li><strong>Confidence<\/strong> &#8211; No problems with speaking in front of a group of people \u2013 but, paradoxically stay silent in a group.\u00a0<\/li><li><strong>Truthful<\/strong> \u2013 If you ask me a question I will give an honest answer but this can come in an unfiltered format.\u00a0<\/li><li><strong>Concentration<\/strong> &#8211; ability to do so for long periods of time \u2013 really handy in some sermons!\u00a0<\/li><li><strong>Passionate<\/strong> \u2013 If I am doing something I enjoy and\/or am interested in there can be, will be, no half measures.\u00a0<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>This is by no means an exhaustive list and over the next few blogs I will endeavour to expand on this and how it impacts both my relationship with God, those I am in fellowship with, but also hopefully help people in the church become more aware of this condition.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Photo by&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/@benwhitephotography?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\">Ben White<\/a>&nbsp;on&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/s\/photos\/christian?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\">Unsplash<\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"linkwithin_hook\" id=\"https:\/\/www.cvm.org.uk\/blog\/friends-of-cvm\/god-makes-no-mistakes-born-this-way-part-1\/\"><\/div><script>\n<!-- \/\/LinkWithinCodeStart\nvar linkwithin_site_id = 897245;\nvar linkwithin_div_class = \"linkwithin_hook\";\n\/\/LinkWithinCodeEnd -->\n<\/script>\n<script src=\"http:\/\/www.linkwithin.com\/widget.js\"><\/script>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.linkwithin.com\/\"><img src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.linkwithin.com\/pixel.png?w=750\" alt=\"Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...\" style=\"border: 0\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>First of all I would like to thank Lady Gaga for the title of this blog. 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